Sunday, August 08, 2010

An exception to the rule.

"Every movie we see, every song we hear, every story we're told implores us all to wait for it, the third act twist, the unexpected declaration of love, the exception to the rule." - Gigi from He's just not that into you.

You know what I love? Girls talking about boys; it’s the funniest thing around; seriously do you guys ever notice how much time women spend talking about men? Like it never ever ends. I was just on a bus this afternoon and this girl sitting in front of me was complaining about how she met this great guy and how they had a magical date and how he never called her back and her friend said the worst thing she could have ever said: ” Oh, you shouldn’t worry; I’m sure he’ll call; I mean why wouldn’t he? You’re so pretty and smart. I’m sure he’s gonna call”. I’m sure she was being supportive as a girlfriend but come on; I swear, there was nothing holding me back from just slapping her silly and get some sense into that girl’s head.

If y’all didn’t know by now, that great guy just wasn’t into her and as girls, it’s so hard for us to grasp that concept. We sit around making up excuses for these
“great” guys while they are out there looking out for their special someone’s or somebody to bone, which ever they’re into. I mean if the book and the movie “He’s just not that into you” didn’t make you question your views on men, then I don’t know what more to say; and if you did not read the book or see the movie, I highly recommend it. Greg Behrendt is a former executive writer on SATC and he co-wrote the book “He’s just not that into you” with his co-worker Liz Tucillo. It’s such an eye-opening book and it’s liberating to feel that we may not be what certain guys are looking for just like they may not be what we are looking for.

Men and women are wired differently; we girls tend to overproject our life long dreams onto a guy we’ve just met; we are already thinking bed sheets thread counts and a little summer house and we already got the names of our future 5 children already picked out; guys, on the other hand, are just thinking
” I hope this goes well”. You cannot expect them to decide if we’re the one in about 5 minutes; that’s unrealistic.

Example, a guy and a girl go shopping. Let’s say they both need socks; a guy will go to the store, get his socks, buy his socks and leave the store; he is not about to check out that v-neck t-shirt that’s on sale, or try on belts or see if the store has a new layout for sales or anything we girls tend to do. Once a guy knows what he wants he’s gonna go and get it and that same technique sadly applies to how they date as well. So if a guy likes you, then YOU WILL KNOW.

They say
“Actions speak louder than words” or ” A picture is worth a thousand words”, well those sayings apply in real life as well.I mean between a guy who says “I donate my time to the elderly” and seeing a guy who’s volunteering at an old folk’s home, which one would you rather believe? So point is believe only what you see; anybody can say anything but action is key. So if you still didnt get it: “IF A GUY LIKES YOU HE WILL LET YOU KNOW”.

He will call you; he will text you; he will IM you; he will facebook, tweet and skype you. He will drop his work, blow off his friends and crazy ex-girlfriends and football practices and anything else that’s keeping him away from you. He will bug the crap out of you and not care that he’s bugging the crap out of you. That’s how simple it is; if you guys went on a great date and he still hasn’t called back then he’s not interested. I could be wrong when I say this but I bet I’m really not.

Talk is cheap; if he’s telling you one thing and doing another thing, that’s shady. I’m not saying all guys are liars; I’m just saying that talk is cheap. People tend to say what they
“think” they want to do without thinking it through and then it creates the mess called “mixed messages”. Girls spend hours with their girlfriends trying to figure out mixed messages; girls, bottom line is if you feel like he’s not interested, then he probably isn’t and the faster we realise this, the better it is for us. Would you rather spend your evening waiting by the phone for a guy who YOU think is gonna call but really isn’t when you could be out with your friends meeting great people who might actually call you back one day?

And as much as it hurts, we have to understand that yeah, we’re pretty awesome but we’re not meant for everybody; we shouldn’t be settling for anything less than what we are and we should all be
“the exception to the rule”.

Silent Sundays: How I feel today.


Saturday, August 07, 2010

This might just be better than Pro-Activ.

Do you have pimples and blackheads that just won't budge? Do you have acne scars that have yet to fade? Are you tired of using over expensive creams in hope to finally have clear, beautiful skin? Do I really sound like an infomercial right now?

I need to make a huge confession; I am envious of girls who have clear, beautiful skin. Like, majorly envious.

I have struggled with my skin every since I hit puberty. It started with the occasional pimple on my chin and probably escalated to something that has like a full-blow breakout all over my face. My acne eventually wore down after 6 years of sheer torture and now, I get the occasional breakouts during "that time of the month". But the worst part of it all, is that now, I'm scarred. Although I may not have acne anymore, I have daily reminders of my horrendous past left on my face.

And it's not to say that I have not tried every single trick in the book to get rid of all my acne scars and breakouts, and I mean, EVERY SINGLE TRICK! I have tried to put toothpaste on pimples to dry them out; I have tried rubbing baking soda and water paste on my face to clear up my face. I have tried rubbing potato slices on my skin as well as using cucumber juice. I have used honey, turmeric, lemon juice but to no avail. I have spent money on things like:

Pro-Activ- this never worked on my skin. In fact, it made it worse.

Clinique Acne Solutions- This worked for awhile but eventually stopped, as with all other Clinique products on me.

Clinique 3-Step Program- This worked magic AT FIRST; it cleared up my skin but breakouts would still pop up everywhere and it also dried up my skin although I used the one for sensitive skin.

So I was literally about to give up until I fell on this piece of magic. I am telling you, I have used it for 2 days only and it has accomplished so much more than using Clinique Acne Solutions for 3 months. A) It is purely organic and B) you will not spend outrageous amounts of money on it. It is simply the magic of Tea Tree Oil and Aloe Vera Gel.

+ = Magic!

Just take an empty bottle or small pot; I mixed 100ml of Aloe Vera Gel with 20ml of Tea Tree Oil and VoilĂ ! Easy peasy, lemon squeezy! That alone could work wonders but since I like to experiment, I also added a tablespoon of Aloe Vera Emergency Spray which is just 99.9% of Aloe vera in liquid form and since my T-Zone is on the dry side and Tea Tree Oil can dry out your skin, I added a tablespoon of my day cream enriched in Vitamin E to just hydrate my skin.

*WARNING:* It is highly recommended to not use Tea Tree Oil on skin directly. It should diluted in water or whatever else you're planning on using it for.*

This also may be used for fading stretch marks you may have on your skin. Only con of this whole thing? The smell; I don't know if you smelled it before but it is very very strong. So your loved one may not want to hug you for awhile until said-mixture can really go deep in the layers of your skin. But I'll gladly live through the smell if it can clear up my skin. I have dark spots on my forehead, huge clusters of scars of both my cheeks and on my chin. Those are my scars that I try to cover up on a daily basis.

I wish I could be a foundation kinda girl but I'm not. I hate the feeling of heavy-weight foundation on my skin but unfortunately, I have to put some on in order to even out my skin tone and when it's really hot, the last thing I wanna do is put on "my face" as I like to call it. I want to be free from my scars because I do feel they are holding me back a little and not to cry "Victory!" just yet, but I think I found my thing that works for ME. My scars have faded from dark brown to light brown; Think Mac's Soft Brown for all you makeup lovers, to Mac's Bamboo in just 2 days of application.

I will finally be able to wear things I have always dreamed of wearing but couldn't such as:

*I'm so excited, and I just can't hide it.....*

Monday, August 02, 2010

Day 7: Letter to your ex

{Part of the 30-day Challenge}

*Note: I can't write to my ex-boyfriend because he has a letter for him in the near future so I thought I'd write little notes for all my ex-boyfriends.*

Dear H,

Your time is not near; your letter shall soon come.


Dear M,

I laugh everytime I think about us; I remember everyone asking me what was it that I saw in you. They couldn't believe that you had landed a girl since you had never dated anyone before me but I just kept telling them "I don't know." And to this day, I still don't know. You were nice to me and you just made me feel at ease and I think it was kinda flattering that I had been the first girl you liked. I mean who wouldn't be flattered? I had a blast with you, from swimming at the beach under the rain to making up our own little number language to sneaking out on Thursday nights, to go clubbing. You were my friend, first and foremost, and in the end, thats what you ended up being. I know it was the distance that killed us in the end but I am glad we stayed on good terms. I am glad that you can talk to me about your problems and vice versa.

9687 374363, 2926
(Your Friend, Ayan)

Dear P,

You were the wildcard guy; I didn't know what I was getting into when I met you. I thought we would have a cup of coffee and be our own separate ways since we met on a blind date. But I was pleasantly surprised. You had made me laugh and kept me on my toes. You were older than me so maybe that's why I was most attracted to you; and sooner than I had thought, I had fallen in love with you. I mean, it was kind of hard not to. I wanted to thank you; thanks to you, I knew what love really felt like. you helped me grow from a teen to a woman. You loved me, you cared for me, you protected me and for that, I'll be forever grateful. I'm sorry my mother never accepted you; you were ready to spend your life with me but I was too young. I guess your clock was ticking a bit faster than mine. I didn't fight for us and let you go; and soon, you met someone else. When I heard that you moved on pretty quickly, it kinda stung but now, I couldn't be more happier for you. You met the love of your life, you married her and now you guys are proud parents of two gorgeous babies that have your baby blue eyes. I thought the day I would run into you would have been awkward but I'm glad we were both mature enough to be civilized. I hope you are happy and honestly that is all that matters.

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